New Mercies

May 2, 2008 at 6:20 pm (Parenting)

Mr. Perfect has been travelling for business since Wednesday morning.


Why do the boys always save their biggest ongoing stunts when he leaves?


It had been one of those 48-hour-long ‘days’, and I was pretty sure that by the time Mr. Perfect got home that I was going to be completely over the edge, or attic-bound with rope in hand.  One of the boys was doing his best to ensure that I would be donning a straight-jacket in the very near future.


And the killer is, it’s not his fault.  I’m not excusing the sin, but I do have to look at it through a different perspective.  He’s missing a few years of cognitive input and this is just what he does.  Sometimes more often than others.



Anyway, Wednesday had been a particularly trying day, starting bad and getting progressively worse.  Then on Thursday I had the pleasure of spending the day with a dear friend and her children.  I spent 15 minutes that afternoon unloading in frustration and asking for sound advice for my concerns of “What if he grows up to be a sociopath???”  She reminded me of something very important.


He’s tender hearted and deeply appreciates beauty.


He cries at classical ice skating performances and at baptisms at church.  He loves like no one’s business and offers unbelievably big hugs from his skinny little arms.  His heart is bigger than any other I’ve seen, save for Mr. Perfect himself.


Point taken.


So this morning I woke up and was reviewing notes from this past Sunday’s service.  I had jotted down the address to James 1:5:


If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not, and it shall be given him.


I read on through James 1:6:


But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering.  For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.


Back to my notes from church.  Next jotted down was Deuteronomy 29:29:


The secret things belong unto the Lord our God: but those things which are revealed belong unto us and to our children forever; that we may do all the words of this law.


OK.  I need wisdom to get this little boy raised to the glory of God, THAT’S for SURE!  I can’t waver, or it’s not going to do anyone any good.  Whatever the Lord reveals to me is done so that I can carry out His law.


Got it.


Then my heart was taken to Deuteronomy 6:7:


And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.


He’s told me where to go for guidance, how to ask, why to do so, and then what to do.


New mercies every day, to be sure.


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Slinging Mud

May 1, 2008 at 9:22 am (Growing in Faith)

If someone could explain to me why one’s view can not be discovered without them then being called some sort of name, I’d really appreciate it.


Why is our society so defensive?  How did we get this way?


Even in the church, if we are guided on another step down the road of sanctification, we still risk being called extremist or legalistic.


If something about the way I live my life forces you to face something in your life, then good!  You’ll either realize that perhaps there is something to investigate, or you’ll be thankful that you are further along than I am!  But why must there be so many defenses, especially when no offence has been slung in the first place?


Most of the changes I’ve made in my life come from watching and wondering about other people.


Why does she wear that?


Why does he read that?


Why does she educate like that?


Why does he discipline like that?


Why does she think like that?


What would happen if we simply sharpened one another?


A very wise gentleman that I know said, “‘Legalism’ is usually the first accusation slung after one has taken a step towards sanctification.”


I have been thinking about that a lot lately, and then ran into this, quoted from The Godly Man’s Picture by Thomas Watson:


When Christ and the world come into competition, and we part with the world to keep Christ and a good conscience, that is a sign we have chosen, “the better part.”


Can things be legalistic?  Of course!  But when you are accused of being legalistic, check your motives.  If they stem from a desire to please God, the accusation of legalism is unsubstantiated.  If they stem from elsewhere, there is some housekeeping to be done.


Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.

Proverbs 27:17

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Biblical Holidays

May 1, 2008 at 9:15 am (Growing in Faith)

Since we were moving the day before easter, we decided to delay our celebration by two weeks.  As we neared our postponed date of celebration, I started researching the history behind easter eggs and bunnies and the like, wanting to be ready for the questions that the boys (who had never dyed an egg in their lives) would surely have.


I was blown away.


As a reforming Christian, I am always on the look out for ways the world has crept into my life and the life of my family.  Then, of course, I have to ask, ‘how was this decided?’, ‘who was involved?’ perhaps, ‘why?’ and then bring up the rear with, ‘is this biblical?’  What I learned about easter had me asking, ‘What in the world are we thinking?’


For a long time I have had an interest in the biblical holidays, but my easter discoveries pushed me over the edge.  After taking my preliminary findings to Mr. Perfect I asked if we had to do eggs and easter.  Being Mr. Perfect he said no and encouraged me to keep researching.  There is a plethora of information on the web, of course, which was very helpful.  But the best was a wonderful book, A Family Guide to the Biblical Holidays by Robin Sampson and Linda Pierce.


(I made the mistake of NOT wanting to wait for Amazon to deliver it, so I called the local Christian book store.  They said it would be in within two days so I asked them to hold one for me.  Wrong.  A week later they called.  I went to pick it up and paid $20 over Amazon prices for it.  Just get it from Amazon!)


Anyway, it is very eye-opening.  There is amazing history to learn and much to think about.  We weren’t able to pull things together in time for seriously celebrating Passover or the Feast of Unleavened Bread, but we did have time to experiment with unleavened bread recipes and talk to the children about what we were learning.  Thankfully, the girls aren’t disappointed about ‘losing easter’, but are excited about celebrating the holidays that have been biblically laid out for us.


While I don’t know where this road is going to take us, I do know that I am excited to be cleaning more of the world out of my life, and the lives of my family.  I’m not sure if the first stop will be formalizing Sabbath or Pentecost, we’ll have to see what Mr. Perfect says!

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